Breaking the Facebook cycle
Sunday, July 25, 2010
UPDATE
I just want to thank everyone who has messaged me since my last blog post to tell me what you've done to change your facebook experience. Your words have been inspiring (even though I wasn't trying to start a revolution) and have validated my thoughts.
I've been doing a fair bit of "editing" to my facebook account since I wrote my last blog post. To date I have deleted 203 people off of my friends list (which I just want you to know takes TIME). My initial policy was to start with people who's status updates were negative consistently (or fuelled drama), people who I didn't have access to their walls, and then people who have friended me but haven't had any contact with since we friended (even after I contacted them through messaging or wall posting).
As you know yourself (if you are a facebook user), unfriending someone takes time, you have to physically click to their profile, once you find them via typing in their name or going through your friends list and scroll down and click the delete friend and then authorize it again, once the facebook window appears validating you REALLY want to do this. It's about 3 mins in total. In case you were wondering, and so you don't have to do the math I have spent 10 hours and 9 mins doing this. This is an approximate number because in some cases I paused to THINK about whether or not I REALLY wanted to delete some people, even if they fit into my new set of parameters (I also took a couple of pee breaks), because the rules didn't always fit for everyone. Like my friend Kate, who I talk to on the phone but doesn't always have access to a computer.
It's interesting to me, since starting this little facebook over haul I have gotten some interesting feedback on taking a-banning-facebook-stance because I have indicated that I would like break the cycle of facebook. It has been misinterpreted as an absolute eradication. Which is not the case. I dislike the experience of facebook, or more over I should say that I dislike the personal experience I am having with Facebook presently. I am interested in making changes to audit the experience and focus on cultivating an outcome that I would be more happy with; hence the deletions off my friends list.Maybe, my final outcome may be to just completely delete my account and never to return. or maybe it may result in whittling down my friends list to include 10 or 20 like minded people. Or maybe I stop at 203 deletes.
My hate for facebook (if you can even call it hate) comes from a need and want to having something more with people I "know." I am actually looking to have intimate, honest, relationships with people who are willing to share, have something to share and use their minds and heart for good. I have faith that people are more then the latest popular trend in social interaction.
And although I do have a dissatisfaction for facebook right now, I am working through it, I am not opposed to making personal changes to alter my perception. I am open to admitting that my frame of mind may have been biased because my experience wasn't the greatest. This will not stop me from making it better for myself and revisiting it over time. I am not locked into to black and white thinking without any greys.
What do you think?
Labels: bags of cheese, facebook sucks, fb cycle, I am making changes, start a revolution
posted by Queen of Light and Joy @ 7/25/2010 11:26:00 AM,
1 Comments:
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At July 30, 2010,
Little Chickpea said...
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Oh I agree baby. But we all know that I'm secretly a luddite and would prefer to have no electricity which would solve all these problems (though also create some).
xoxo
